When People “Think Its All About Them”

When People “Think Its All About Them”

Dear  بأمين الأفكار

Ok so basically I am not a person that like to complain or moan about someone, so I figured “posting” it down will help me not to say anything harsh or kind to that person.

There is the one person that is reallllllllllly getting to me, with my dad I like discussing situations, problems, basically everything, our dinner table is not just a eating place but a daily “what’s on your mind place” … a quote in our family is “when you leave the table get up, a little fuller, healthier and WISER”…. So anyways back to this “person”, since them a guest, they naturally around when we talk, everything I say they seem to think it’s about them, “they” blow a fuse, and storms of, not forgetting to accuse me of being mean!

I honestly have it my mind to ask them , do they think they have a habits and traits I talk to dad about, is that why they get offended?

What do you readers think? Should I? Or what do you think I should do?

Muslimah… Signing of With Asking You For Advice?…..

Walaikum as salaam
“My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think, or of my opinions.”

Your Happiness

Your Happiness

Dear  بأمين الأفكار

So, yes Alhamdulillah I have been get loads of email from all the amazing readers, some have been asking me , how have I found happiness in my life after my divorce and heart-break… to be honest, heart-break is something that takes forever to heal (or rather it feels forever) which heals well when you fall in love all over again… 😉

Happiness well here is a little something that says it all:

Make your happiness the number one thing in your life.

Happiness is an inside job.

You can completely transform any relationship,

no matter what it’s like right now.

Every single relationship you have is a reflection of

how you feel inside about you.

You are a magnet attracting to you all things,

via the signal you are emitting through

your thoughts and feelings.

Every relationship you have and every interaction with

every person, is a reflection of your own thoughts and

feelings in that very moment

To transform every single relationship you have in your life.

Fall in love with YOU!

Make lists of hundreds and hundreds of wonderful things about you.

Keep adding to it every day.

Know that you are perfect. Do not think any

negative thoughts about you.

Know that you are worthy and deserving of anything

and everything you could possibly want in your life.

Focus on the wonderful things in every person.

Look for only those things.

Do not blame or criticize anybody, ever

Set an intention that you are going to see the

best in everything and everyone.

Make your happiness the number one thing in your life.

Happiness is an inside job.

Free yourself of the responsibility of trying to make other people happy.

Respect and love them enough to allow them to take care of their own happiness.

Get your attention off those things in others that don’t make you feel good.

Appreciate and love yourself in every moment you can.

Do not expect others to behave in a way you want, so you will be happy.

Release yourself forevermore and know that you alone control your happiness

and it is a choice, no matter what anyone  else is doing.

Love and respect yourself completely.

Know that you are perfect right now.

Muslimah… Signing of With She Is Happy, And Wishes The Same For All 🙂

Walaikum as salaam
“My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think, or of my opinions.”


I Believe….

I Believe…. believe

Dear  بأمين الأفكار

I believe in miracles and dreams that will come true.

I believe in tender moments and friendship, through and through.

I believe in stardust and moonbeams all aglow.

I believe there’s magic and more there than we know.

I believe in reaching out and touching from the heart.

I believe that if we touch a gift we can impart.

I believe that if you cry your tears are not in vain.

And when you’re sad and lonely, others know your pain.

I believe that when we laugh a sparkle starts to shine.

And I just know that spark will spread from more hearts than just mine.

I believe that hidden in the quiet of the night,

there’s magic moths and gypsies a fairy and a sprite.

I believe that if you dance the dances of your heart,

that greater happiness will find a brand new way to start.

I believe the gifts you have are there for you to share

And when you give them from the heart, the whole world knows you care.

I believe that if you give, even just to one,

that gift will grow in magnitude before the day is done.

I believe that comfort comes from giving part of me.

And if I share with others, there’s more for all to see.

I believe that love is still the greatest gift of all

and when it’s given from the heart the gift is never small.

 always believe

Muslimah… Signing of With Her Believes Grow Stronger Everyday 🙂

Walaikum as salaam
“My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think, or of my opinions.”



Glass And Stilettos

Glass And Stilettos

Dear  بأمين الأفكار

Life, and love are like glass and stilettos, its either you can hold on the glass and walk straight, without breaking the glass and not fall, and if you do, you not afraid to pick up the pieces and walk up straight in your pride, ego and embarrassment … placing the broken glass slowly together knowing that doing it slowly will place it together well, for the cracks only heat taken from time will close.

People say “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.” I wish I could agree, but I don’t, as not trying to put a relationship back together, means you have given up, if a relationship or the love means so much, try, n try again, at least then you would know your tried to your best to put the glass together, the conscious will be on the other.

Cinderella walked on broken glass, Belle loves a beast and Snow White barely escaped a knife, all because LOVE means facing YOUR BIGGEST FEARS.


Stiletto’s, I look at it more as an attitude as opposed to a high heel shoe.

strong women

Muslimah… Signing of With Caring Her Glass With Care And Walking Well In Her Stilettos 🙂

Walaikum as salaam
“My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think, or of my opinions.”

Mother Dearest.

Mother Dearest.

Dear  بأمين الأفكار

Narrated Abu Huraira (RA) A man came to Rasulullah (SAW) and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?”   Rasulullah (SAW)) said, “Your mother.” The man said. “Who is next?” Rasulullah (SAW) said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” Rasulullah (SAW) said, “Your mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” Rasulullah (SAW) said, “Your father. ” (Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 73, Number 2)

Obedience and respect towards our mother is a very important duty in Islam and is similar to performing Salaah and keeping fast. To hurt our mother in any way is the second biggest sin and those who commit this evil sin will be harshly punished by Allah in the hereafter or maybe even in this world!

Our mother is not a Prophet, nor is she an angel; she’s just a human like you and I, so why has Allah ordered us to be obedient towards our mother and why does our mother have such a high status in Islam?

Allah loves and cares for us more than anybody else, and he especially loves those people who love and care for others. Similarly, he becomes very angry with those people who hurt other people in any way. Allah the All-Knowing, knows that in this world nobody is more loving and caring towards another person than the way that a mother is towards her child. Only Allah and his Messenger May Allah (SAW) love us more than our mother!

Only Allah knows what our mother does for you, He sees our mother feeling pain whilst she tries to give us whatever we want. He sees our mother’s love and kindness. Pleased by our mother’s actions, Allah has given her a very high status and many virtues and rewards.

Allah also sees that many of us are not thankful to our mothers. He sees many of us being disobedient towards them. Therefore, Allah has ordered us to be good towards our mothers; he has not advised us but ordered us; we have no choice; therefore we have to be good towards our mothers! To encourage us to do this, Allah has promised paradise for those of us who are obedient towards our mothers. At the same time, Allah has threatened to severely punish those of us who do not listen to our mothers or hurt them in any way.

But what does our Mother do for us? She only cooks and cleans! So why do we need to be thankful to our Mother?

Apart from Allah, nobody knows what our Mother really does for us.

10 Wonderful reasons to be grateful to your mother:

  • Our mother carried you for 9 months bearing pain upon pain.
  • During this time, she could not eat because of us! She could not sleep because of us.
  • When we were a baby, she spent every minute of her life looking after us!
  • She only slept when we slept! She only ate after we had eaten!
  • She was patient and loved us even when we cried all night and when we cried all day.
  • She taught us how to walk, how to speak, how to eat, she taught us how to live.
  • When we fall ill, she looks after us.
  • She always cooks and prepared food for us.
  • She buys us whatever we need.
  • She loves us unconditionally.

These are just a few things that our Mothers do for us; they do so much more of which we do not know about. However, one thing that our Mother does for you, that nobody else in the world does, is that she worries about you from the bottom of her Heart.

So what is it she worries about?

  • She WORRIES about our food.
  • She WORRIES about our clothes.
  • She WORRIES about our health.
  • She WORRIES about our education.
  • She WORRIES about our future.
  • She WORRIES about our whole life.

Allah has ordered us, in various places of the Holy Qur’an, to be good to our mothers. He has told us to look after them even more when they are old and weak. He has taught us to be gentle to our mothers and speak to them in a nice manner. He has also told us to supplicate to Him for our Mothers with this prayer,


Translation: “My lord, have mercy upon my parents, the way they had mercy upon me when I was young)”

Rasulullah (SAW) has also ordered us to be good to our mothers. He has told us about the great rewards for that person who is good to his mother. He has described the mother as being a ‘door of paradise.’ He has also warned us of severe punishments for that person who is disobedient to his mother.

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However hard we try, we can never repay our mothers for what they have done for us, but we can at least try, and also ask Allah to repay them for us. Our mothers are indeed a great blessing from Allah. We should appreciate and value this blessing as much as we can. Whilst our mothers are alive, we have a golden opportunity to guarantee ourselves paradise and also success in this world.

Reminder: We will only truly realise the value of our mothers when they are no longer with us – when they have passed away, but then it will be too late!


You smiled and your eyes were filled with tears


when you held me in your hand for the fist-time without fear

you breathed a warm sigh of relief

while gazing right into my immature eyes and thanking Allah with your inner belief


you held me tightly against your heart

when i was afraid of the obscurity of the hollow nights

throughout the darkness singing me lullabies

while i snuggled in your comfortable and merciful arms


when my sleep was troubled by some illness

you cured me with your affection

every day you showered compassion

and still your love for me inflames with passion


treasuring me more than a million diamonds

you wouldn’t replace me even for a earths kingdom

the warmth of your heart reaches me faster than the sun rays

you still look into my eyes with tenderness on lonely nights and on delicate days

the god gifted mercy which you possesses outshines the glorious stars

wallahi, you are truly exceptional, absolutely magnificent, flawlessly beautiful

indeed you are oh my dear mum.



Muslimah… Signing of With She Is Thankful For Her Mom. Mom I Love You. :-*

Walaikum as salaam
“My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think, or of my opinions.”



Been Busy….

Been Busy….

Dear  بأمين الأفكا

I sincerely apologise for not updating blog for such a very long time…. So much has happened and happening in my life …..

But the most important is that my granny is not well,  apart from her “health” she fell and broke her hip, so it my 1st and most important priority looking after her.

I hope that all you dear readers are keeping well….

Muslimah… Signing of With Never Forgetting Her Readers And Friends 🙂

Walaikum as salaam
“My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think, or of my opinions.”

Overcoming Fears Connected With Negative Past Experiences

Overcoming Fears Connected With Negative Past Experiences


Dear  بأمين الأفكار

Some of my fears arise due to the situations I have lived through.

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There are fears that I carry within me that are not of the present. For example: Something happened to me in the dark and I’m now afraid of the dark. Fears in relationships: I have opened my heart, I fell in love and, after a time I experienced pain, I felt hurt, misunderstood, manipulated, deceived or mistreated, and now I no longer open my heart for anything; it is closed off with the shields that I have created.

To overcome this kind of fear due to experiences I have lived through, I have to come to terms with my past and accept it fully. I cannot change my past; lamenting the past doesn’t help me; complaining about the past doesn’t benefit me. (Although I do want my stuff back from my ex… guess this feeling is female and normal) Those shields brought about by fears did not disappear until I did some deep cleansing. I began to heal experience of the past. Part of the past is healed with forgiveness. Without forgiving, one cannot forget.

The work with myself was to see what aspects of my past burden was and coming to terms with those aspects, requires silence, reflection and meditation. When I had come to terms with my own past, I could let go of it and be free of it, I am not afraid that the past will come back to me again. But I will remain like a shadow that follows me. Sometimes that experience presents itself in dreams, in the subconscious or in present attitudes.

Reliving the past in my mind, I would do not fully enjoy the present. I have accepted the pieces of my past. I have accepted that I had to live through them and I now live the present with a constructive vision of the future.

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Muslimah… Signing of With Forget & Forgive is the best solution for a Happy Life! 🙂

Walaikum as salaam “My recipe for life is not being afraid of myself, afraid of what I think, or of my opinions.”


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